The MASH-UP: Our best wishes for others (not to be confused with Good Intentions) can keep people from being their authentic self with us.
I seldom describe myself as “judgmental.” I’m not perfect and as we all know ‘THOUGHTS turned to WORDS’ is a familiar process for me. Yet consciously I practice the art of muting my opinion and increasing my listening even if the conversation raises my “internal” eyebrow.
In a conversation I was having with a dear friend, JL, yesterday, she said – and I’m paraphrasing – all the best wishes I had for a relative were in fact judgements that keeps them from being their authentic self with me. I understood her to say that the energy of wishing a “better” life for someone comes across as a lack of acceptance of their current life, possibly even judgement.
HELP ME FINISH THIS BLOG: I can’t conclude whether I agree with her or not but I sense there is some truth there. Leave a comment… then I’ll finish this blog resolute that best wishes for a different/better life are still a go, rethinking my relationship, or some where in the middle.